Excessive Affairs by wealthy and famous people are hurting klal yisroel

You posted the same topic under a different heading, I guess your an environmentalist, reuse & recycle

Rav Hunter said years ago that it is within the spirit of giving and to leave them alone
If you tell the wealthy to be stingy by themselves then the same middah carry’s over to their tzedakah
Why can’t people just do their own thing?
I’m a simple person who makes simple affairs even though BH I can afford more. Do your own thing and people will respect you for not bowing to peer pressure

Mentsch, it’s true that some gedolim have held off on criticizing some gvirim because they think that they’ll become stingy with the poor. That doesn’t translate into a live and let live idea; it’s a strategic, targeted reason for not giving criticism that is warranted. Because it’s not torahdig to indulge in gashmius, whether you could afford it or not.

“Who is a real ball tzidakah and who is doing it for attention?”

Who cares? Do you really think people in need should go without resources if the means of those resources’ donation was too flashy for your liking? The money going to good causes. Why complain?

What matters most is what the Bnei Torah do, not the “wealthy and famous” who are rarely if ever Bnei Torah. The Baal ha-Battim in many cases are still recovering from the Holocaust (and from the last few millenia), and want to show off that they “made it” in spite of everything the goyim threw at us. While a Ben Torah has better things to do, and sees our current and probably temporary prosperity has coming from Ha-Shem rather than our own efforts, the perspectives of the Am ha-Haretz are understandable.

I don’t think I have ever deleted a post of yours, or even considered it,  but I was very surprised to see that those harsh stereotypes were written by you.

I think those evil wealthy baal habatim should stop funding the ungrateful yeshivish for one year and see how you guys like it then.

Not saying all yeshivish people are ungrateful, but clearly some are as you can see on this thread.

Also
I reject the original premise
Wealthy balei batum do not create a “keeping up with the jonses” attitude. We all know we are in a different category
It’s your next door neighbor who can’t afford it who does it anyway.
Choose good neighbors. Choose a good shul where there is no pretense. In my shul every kiddush is the same rich or poor, Most weddings are basic and those that are not, I have yet to see anyone feel compelled to keep up with the rich mispallilim.
So be a good example. The next simcha you make, dial it down, make it basic and set a good example.
and OP
I am curious
Why harp on this and not the mansions going up in lakewood with $250K chandeliers? I have a much bigger problem with that than weddings

I suggest yeshivish invite some of the gvirim to give seminars on how to emter the business world and to succeed there. Even if, in your opinion, a particular gvir is “keeping up with the joneses”, yeshiva bochrim can take the good from the bad.

Maybe, if someone expand to the gvir about maalos tzedaka and then disclose to him the secret (that is usually not mentioned in the appeals to him) that the biggest tzedoka is to help someone with making a living, the gvir can take some of the more aspiring bochrim as apprentices.

The middle class and the once were Bale Batfishes now poor rchm”l feel that they have to keep up with the “Joneses”. Be a mensch dear richest NO! You cannot do what you can afford.
If you can afford then you can build yourself up a house a little nicer than others, according to Rashi, but to explode your taaveh in public that’s a geius witch has a terrible smell. The only ones that can really put a stop to this are the rabayim who are true to their talmudim and mispallelim,